Emotional Pain

Love really does hurt, just as poets and song writers claim.

The part of the brain which deals with physical pain also governs emotional pain.

In the same way that physical injury can cause long-lasting chronic pain, people suffer during the emotional pain of a relationship break-up, social exclusion or bullying attack.



Trying to be a 'little angel', trying to 'please' a bully to save hearing their bad mouthing abuse, doesn't work.

Take action now, stop worrying about whether you are doing something they may or may not like.

Take control now. The bully is the person with the problem. The bully needs the psychiatric help, not you.

Help the bully change their abusive behaviour pattern now! Change the way you respond to their attacks. If the bully says "Shut up", speak more.

If the bully shouts 'Be quiet', be loud.

Make their commands useless. In time the bully will stop using their favourite commands because they simply become ineffective
(at least with you - they do - Bully will continue to do it with other people)

The bully enjoys your response because you give them what they want. So change your response... and stick at it. Sometimes it takes a while to change a bully's bad behaviour, but it will work.